This blog post is created in partnership with SK-II. However, all thoughts and opinion are my own (as always.)
Sometimes I feel as if women are constantly being pressured to accomplish something before their "expiration date." Whether it's getting married, having a child or changing careers, there seems to be a "before it's too late" tag attached to so many aspects of a woman's life.
But we are not cartons of milk. We as women - should not worry about getting older or becoming "outdated." There is no reason to rush into a relationship – instead, enjoying life means being happy just being ourselves. We shouldn't feel pressured into marrying someone, for example, just because we're getting older.
Don’t get me wrong - I do believe that we should all seek love, long-term partnerships and have families IF the right partner comes along and IF that is what we want. What I don’t condone is a societal pressure that women are not complete and are will not be happy without something else completing them.
I remember when I was in my early 20’s - my girlfriends and I was at times pressured by well-meaning family members including our mothers - to settle down and find a man (and get married, and start a family, and so on and so forth) - because it’s what expected. I knew they believed that if we don’t have a spouse and children by a certain age, we're doomed to spend the rest of our lives sad and alone - incomplete. It took me a decade - when I was in my early 30s - a stylish, strong and successful woman at the top of my field - to realize that happiness is something that comes from within - not from being with the right man or being married or not married. It’s about accepting oneself as is.
Because if we sought meaning and completion by having another, there is a chance we will always be dependent on others to make us whole. I don’t know about you - but I do not want to be dependent on anyone. Isn’t seeking happiness from outside the very thing that makes thousands if not millions of people so unhappy in the first place?
In short, I believe we should accept ourselves as we are, irrespective of age. I want to take care of myself for myself, not because I'm hoping someone will come along and sweep me off my feet.
Now that I am in my 30’s - I have stopped comparing myself to others around me and found pleasure (and ultimately peace and happiness) in the fact that I can take my own time in doing what I want for me. I wear clothes that I want, travel where I want and have hobbies that I want - not worrying about expiry dates or pleasing anyone else.
And I am happy that one of my favorite skincare brands - SK-II has been a prominent advocate of women being happy onto themselves - without needing anything (or anyone else) to complete them. I was drawn to its motto #changedestiny that women should always be themselves, which dovetailed with the way I was feeling. This is one of the reasons why you SK-II is one of the brands that I am proud to be an ambassador of.
Often, we're afraid we've run out of time to make a difference and find love, but neither of these is true. We compare our lives so much to those around us when ultimately we should just be comparing our what we have achieved today to what we have yesterday.
You are ultimately the person you have to live for and impress. So go out there and make yourself happy. Take yourself on that dream date, and spend the time taking care of your body. It's the power of positive being. And trust me; the universe will take note of your efforts, and your entire world will change for the better.
Watch this video from SK II and tell me how do you feel about being a modern woman and not having to care about ‘expiry dates’.